“Every relationship goes through those rough times. Misunderstandings, unmet expectations, hurt, anger and doubts. But, love is even when you are hurt, you can’t see them hurting. You can still feel their pain and want to heal it with your LOVE. You just don’t wanna give up.”
IS IT EVEN WORTH IT???
Suddenly everything became meaningless and we start doubting our bond and love itself. These low moments convince us that’s it’s not worth it. A feeling of failure comes over us and it affects us really bad. We either go into isolation or we react with anger. Both consume our energy and hope.
YOU CANT SEE THEM HURTING…
When you see your partner in pain you realise that all this negativity could have been avoided. You feel like correcting the hurt and make everything fine. It’s possible that you still think that you didn’t do anything wrong and you were hurt too but now the priority has changed. It’s not about who was right and who was wrong, it’s about the bond, the relationship and the love.
THEY’RE STILL NOT READY TO TALK!!!
At first, you thought of providing them with space and wait till they get ready to talk. But, sometimes that space starts turning into a void and what if your partner starts getting emotionally closed? What if their walls get stronger and stronger with the time? The thing is they are still hurt and thinking about all wrongs you said and did. It’s tough for them too to come out of that hurt zone all alone. Everything is echoing in their head and moving in front of the eyes. They want to talk too but that hurt and pains don’t let them. Be there, hang on and hold onto them. Let them know you want them.
WHAT TO DO!!!
They need you to tell them still LOVE is there. After all that there is still hope and nothing has changed. They are being tough and hard so that they might not get hurt again. So, help them to break their walls. Remind them of those beautiful memories. Don’t let them give up because it will break them too.
I HAVE AN IDEA !!!
I had a similar situation with Mr Husband and I think I got totally closed and didn’t want to hear a thing. I was showing that I was angry but inside I was broken. I was pushing him away though wanted to hug him. As I was not ready to listen to a thing, so what he did was left a beautiful letter and wrote his heart out with my morning coffee. I thought not to drink the coffee made by him but to make one for myself but that letter caught my attention. And, now I am in LOVE again…