I have always been a bit more on the emotional side of the spectrum in my life. Whenever I got hurt or disappointed in my life, I used to tell myself that it might not work this way. I seriously need to be tough and strong but what I actually meant by tough and strong was hard and cold. I thought the trouble is that I feel things so very deeply that’s why it affects me more than they affect others.
It was one such day, Mr Husband came from the office, I went straight to hug him and my tears started rolling down. He asked me about what happened and all I could say was “I am such an emotional fool. I want to be really practical and apathetic. I am tired of being hurt and sad.” Wiping away my tears he said,”No, I am proud of the person you are, it takes a really brave heart to feel things so passionately in today’s time. Your emotions are the strength of our relationship. It’s your emotions that turned my house into a home. You are blessed to have a heart that can find happiness in little things. It’s your Superpower, my girl. You should know how to balance emotions and not let them govern you.”Each and every word he said was piquant and inspirational.
“Feelings are much like waves, we can’t stop them from coming but we can choose which one to surf.”― Jonatan Mårtensson
Being an emotional person you might be ‘too much’ but then this too much makes you a much more tolerant, open-minded, understanding, passionate and happier person too. You surely have better communication. People can easily connect with you. Emotional people can empathise with others and help them efficaciously. They are more passionate about life which directly reflects in their expression. Being intuitive and focused they see people and situations with a different yet effective perspective. They are creative and expressive. They are connected to their reality on much deeper levels. When you allow yourself to express then you allow yourself to receive more from life.
“Never apologise for being sensitive or emotional. Let this be a sign that you’ve got a big heart and are not afraid to let others see it. Showing your emotions is a sign of strength.”-BRIGITTE NICOLE
There is another side to this coin, however, these emotions, if not managed well can become your weakness too. Showing extreme emotions without analysing the situation and taking a hasty decision in the heat of the moment can be threatening, also over thinking about things and stressing yourself can adversely affect your mental and physical health. Being vulnerable because of sensitivity is risky. One important thing: don’t let people have so much control over your emotions. As DEYTH BANGER stated, “If you expose too much of these emotions, soon people will use this as weakness.” Notice if your emotions lead to attention-grabbing activities. If being emotional is impairing your judgements and clouding your vision, it is alarming.
Emotions can be positive or negative depending on the individual, situation and environment. Hence, Emotions cannot be categorised as a strength or a weakness but how you respond to them, defines your strength or weakness. It’s human to be emotional but yes it’s very important to learn how to accept it, analyse it and direct it towards something positive and creative. Managing our own emotions and dealing effectively with other people’s emotions define our Emotional Intelligence. Being emotionally strong can have a beneficial impact on our life for that Self-awareness and patience are needed. Recognise your emotions rather than judging yourself and fearing it as a sign of weakness, be strong enough to express them. As JIM ROHN says
“Our emotions need to be as educated as our intellect. It is important to know how to feel, how to respond, and how to let life in so that it can touch you.”
Often, we come across people advising us that we need to stop being so sensitive and grow a thicker skin to protect yourself from getting hurt and sad. I think it is even more hurtful and tough for emotional people because if they lose these emotions they will lose the connection with their true being. I request you all that if you ever find yourself struggling through emotionally low phase don’t think of changing yourself rather confidently embrace your emotions and try to manage those effectively. Managing doesn’t mean you can pick and choose your feelings, you can’t ignore all negative feelings and just be positive and happy, as BRENE BROWN said,“We can’t selectively numb emotions, when we numb the painful emotions, we also numb the positive emotions.” When you feel hurt or irritated, don’t give in to your fears, examine the whole situation and pay attention to your emotions to regulate your emotional responses.
In the words of LEON BROWN –
“Do not drown in your own emotions. Take a breather, regain your strength, do not let what worries, control you.”